How to Make Big Life Decisions (3 Steps)

Life is confusing. There is no roadmap, no mile markers, and no directional signage. Sometimes big decisions come into our paths and we must make a call: who to marry, what school to attend, should we quit a job, etc. These decisions simply show up on our doorstep and demand that we make a decision. Not making a decision isn’t avoiding the matter, as not making a decision is also a decision.

Decisions must be made, and the reason our knees quiver at deciding is because we understand big decisions change the course of our life. God is sovereign and his plan will stand, but we want to make the right choices. We want to flourish.

So how do we choose? For those of us that follow Jesus, how do we make our life decisions in such a way that we seek his counsel and do not rely on the highly limited amount of wisdom we possess at the time?

Let Your Eyes Adjust: The Reality of Darkness and Light in Our World

My daughter Lila has a little Yoshi night light in her room. It sits in the corner opposite her bed, and emits a light in the color of your choosing. (These days she chooses blue.) One night as I put Lila to bed, after brushing her teeth, we walked into her room.

I turned the light off.

“It’s too dark! It’s too dark, Daddy!”

I scrambled to the Yoshi light and turned it on. She still wasn’t satisfied. So I put my hands on her, and said:

“Baby, let your eyes adjust.”

Our Two Natures - Choose The Light

“The awful thing is that beauty is mysterious as well as terrible. God and the devil are fighting there and the battlefield is the heart of man.” 
― Fyodor Dostoevsky, The Brothers Karamazov

We are at war with ourselves. We know it subconsciously, but many of us have ever truly failed to define it. You see, we aren’t just one person but two: flesh and Spirit. If we are in Christ, the old us has been crucified with him, but the flesh still remains.

The flesh is our insatiable desire to lie, cheat, and steal to glorify ourselves. The flesh is indulgent, immature, and foolish. And it is dark.

The Spirit, however, is the literal Spirit of God living within us. If we live by the Spirit, we are in sync with God himself. Romans says we are “led by” the Spirit. Imagine that! We are led by the Spirit of God. The Spirit spreads joy and glorifies God.