We See You
I heard a woman recently call her 30s “The Wiping Decade.” As a mom, she felt like she was always wiping something: counters, noses, bottoms. As a dad with young kids, I know this to be true. I know when I’m with the littles I’m constantly wiping and doing all kinds of things just to keep the wheels on.
Moms order chaos. They mend wounds of the heart and the body. Moms have a mysterious wisdom that is so deep that it must come from the Spirit. They are heroes, the glue and the honey.
But moms are so much more than that.
Moms, you are doing combat in the shadows. And that is why I believe some moms gravitate towards social media – to find your band of sisters. It isn’t necessarily just to make people comment on how farmhouse chic your new centerpiece is, you just want to be seen. As a man with a man brain, God wired me differently. So for a long time I have seen the mom social media posts and wondered what it was all about. Is this self-promotion? Just good ideas to share with other moms? God forbid I speak for a woman (the brain of a woman is a deep mystery), but I think you desire to be seen.
Women are masterpieces. When God made Eve and presented her to Adam, Adam was impressed. He says:
This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh…(Genesis 2:23)
Adam is floored by Eve. And he should be. A woman of any shape, color or size is a creation par excellence. And thus when a woman gives herself to her family with all she has, I believe she needs to be seen and cherished because she has offered one of the greatest gifts in the universe. She has not become a vacuum cleaner just because she is a mother who picks stuff up. She has not become a short order cook because she makes dinner. She has creativity to express and beauty to display and adventure to pursue. She may have snot on her shoulder but she has the heart of heart of a warrior, artist, and conqueror.
We just moved to a new house. At first there were boxes with unknown contents and pieces of furniture everywhere but where they should be. We worked from morning till late into the night putting things together. Our great friends and family rallied to help. I grabbed my tools and kept busy installing and building while Lindsay and her mom executed their decorative vision for the house. Put this here, hang this like this, that votive (what’s a votive?) goes right there. Now the house is done. And looking over Lindsay’s vision now complete, it really hit me: my wife is an artist. Lindsay just created a beautiful home from a million boxes and pieces of furniture. That’s art.
Here is what I want to say here: moms, we see you. You are not invisible. You are beautiful and cherished in God’s sight. We don’t just see the fruits of your motherly labor, we see your glorious heart full of gifts yet to be given. You are a mom, yes – and that is a high calling. But you are also a woman, a magnum opus of God himself. As the years of motherhood change your body and carve the lines of wisdom on your face (they’re not wrinkles, they are “lines of wisdom”), you become even more attractive.
It may help to know that you are seen by people, but it’s more important to know that you are seen by God. He delights in you as his daughter. So while you might be laboring in unseen places, remember that your Father sees you and is with you. He has given everything for you – his only son – and he intends to continually lavish you with his love and joy.