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This Quote Will Change Your Marriage Forever

This Quote Will Change Your Marriage Forever

I can't believe I've never thought of this. How have I never heard this in a sermon or read it in a book or had it told to me over coffee with a friend? 

This changes everything for me. I'm not sure my marriage will ever be the same. I'm dead serious.

I've always considered that I am to show my children, as best I'm able as an imperfect man, the love and character of God. I have arrows tattooed on my right wrist (children are like arrows in the hand of a warrior - Psalm 127) to remind me that my every action should be for their sake. I know I am God's ambassador to my kids. 

I read the following quote today and it blindsided my soul:

My advice to a new husband is nothing more than ‘husbands, love your wives.’ And ‘love your wife as Christ loved the church.’ Never forget that you are Christ’s representative in serving your wife.
— J.I. Packer

It's the last line that floored me. A lightbulb, which apparently had remained unlit for my nearly eleven year marriage, just lit up. 

I have read Ephesians 5 many times, and I know the call to love my wife like Christ loved the church. I also know I fail miserably at it, because the standard is so impossibly high. I also know there's grace. But it just seems so far fetched and beyond my ability. I am no Jesus, not that you need me to remind you of that.

But I can, I absolutely can, be his vehicle of love to my wife.

What if the kind word Lindsay needs to hear from God is in my mouth? What if the peace of Christ my family so badly needs in a time of crisis has been given to me to give them?

What if...

It's not that I need to show Lindsay what God is like. That's funny even typing those words. What I can do, however, is make myself ever open to him to be his hands and feet to love her. That I can do.

This applies to you, whether you're married or not. If you know Jesus, he aims to work through you by the power of his Spirit. You are his ambassador - his representative - to everyone around you. You don't need to be a Jesus impersonator; you need only to be a willing participant in what Jesus might have for other people. It could be a kind word, a glass of water, or a loving presence in a time of need. 

I believe God will have his way with or without me, but if I can step into the river of his grace and float along with him, maybe I can pull some others along for the ride as well. I'll start with my beautiful wife.

Where will you start?

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