Takes One to Know One
It's obvious when you say one thing and mean another.
I notice when you ignore your kids and then post all day on Facebook like you're the parent of the year.
It is clear when you do the right thing for the wrong reason.
I am aware of the inconsistency in what you say you believe about God and how you live your life.
Isn't it interesting how clearly we see the sin in others? Isn't it amazing how we look past the logs in our eyes to focus on the specks in the eyes of others? This is why those obnoxious people who only talk about themselves continue to only talk about themselves. They don't know. Oh wait, though - following this logic, doesn't it follow that I could be one those people since those people by nature don't see themselves rightly? Oh. no.
Which way is up?
Introspection is one route to take when trying to truly understand ourselves, but it's not quite enough. I can look inside myself all I want, but I'm still only seeing through my perspective. And my perspective is skewed toward whatever will make me feel better about me.
We need an outside perspective. We need the company of dear friends, equally yoked in faith and motivated by love. We need friends who will not only shine light into our lives, but also tell us the bitter truth. That's a special relationship to have, and it's rare. Most people don't want to hear about their weaknesses, quirks, and self-sabotage. And further, most friends don't have the courage to tell you anyway. They'd rather watch you drown than offend you. The relationship has to be engineered in such a way that both parties have the right to speak bluntly in love. It's a mutual agreement for mutual betterment.
Isolated Christians (and everyone for that matter) stunt their growth. Iron sharpens iron, and if we are solo we lack this element. Sure, we can read God's word and pray and these cannot be discounted, but we are created as communal beings.
We need each other.
So yeah, I see your sin and brokenness. You're pretty jacked up in certain ways. And the reason I can see your faults so clearly is because I see myself in them.